Learning Through Play, But Not Playing At Learning

As I walk down this road of personal development and discovery {other’s would call it my path to self-destruction} I am finding out a lot of things about myself that I really {as in REALLY} dislike about myself.

Because we learn so much through play, have come up with a new little game that I call B ‘n G. This is short for Butt ‘n Gut.

“Judge not lest ye be judged” isn’t correct. Maybe it is but I am finding that we are quicker to judge others when we are being judged. You judge me, and I will judge you back or someone else. Vicious circle of judgment going on around this world of ours. Shame. Shame on me, shame on everyone else that plays this ‘game’.

We judge others because we don’t want to take a look at ourselves. Our own ‘flaws’ whether they are real, imagined or just plain dramatized. More times than not, we are actually judging a quality or character trait that we ourselves have, but don’t want to face. It’s easier to see it and point it out in someone else.

I have never had much of a butt. I have carried the nickname BCNAAT from 1981 (first marriage). I have a Bad Case No Ass A ‘Tal. Now I have one. It isn’t pretty unless fully clothed. I have cellulite – aka dimple butt. I try not to be upset since I am a little very excited to actually have a butt now!

I have also prided myself on having a flat stomach. Even when I was pregnant you could see my hip bones (if you could avert your gaze past my gi-normous belly). That has recently changed. Upsets me to no end. Oh, change is good but NOT when it comes to this belly of mine {and my vanity rearing its ugly head again}.

So today, when I find myself judging others, I say “Butt ‘n Gut” to myself to remind me of things I, personally, need to work on about myself. Turn the focus back on myself instead of judging others.

I have chosen two things that I absolutely have control over. I can change these, if I really wanted to change them.

If I hear someone upset over their weight, and I see what they are eating I will try not to judge them. Butt ‘n Gut fits perfectly here. We are, instead, of kindred souls. We prefer to complain about it than do anything about it. Worse yet, we prefer to point out our flaws as we see them instead of changing them.

It is also helping me to learn to allow others who choose to try to push their character or physical flaw judging onto me, do so without it affecting me and my view of myself. In other words, not take it personally. Oh, I will do a quick check to see if it applies to me, and then I name it (flaw), claim it (not mine or not mine) and let it go.

I, like so many others, have so many faults, flaws and character defects that I dwell on as it is. I honestly don’t need help from others in seeing them and I certainly don’t want to be like those particular ‘others’ and damage someone further than they already are damaged simply by existing in this crazy world we live in today.

So, if you choose to play along, find two things about yourself that you could change {if you really wanted to change them}, and let that be your catch phrase when you find yourself wanting to judge someone else.

PS. This little ‘game’ is amazing in that it bleeds over onto other areas of your life through your subconscious. Like FlyLady and her ‘shine your sink’ ends up bleeding over into the rest of your housecleaning without you even realizing it.